Trust Your Vibes: 30 Ways to Reconnect with Your Intuition

There's a moment many women — usually somewhere in their 40s — realise they've stopped trusting themselves. Not in a dramatic way. Just quietly, over years of putting everyone else first, they stopped listening to that inner knowing that used to guide them. I should know, I've been there.

That quiet inner voice is your intuition. And it's also the gateway to your creativity.

Years ago, searching for ways to reconnect with my own creative core, I found Sonia Choquette's Trust Your Vibes. A useful guide on my journey — some things were new to me, and some reminded me of what I already knew and had forgotten.

Here is what I took home…

• Intuition Is Not a Gift for the Special FewIt's something every one of us was born with. Accepting that you have this capacity is the first step to opening the door. Begin noticing the subtle connections in your life — the synchronicities, the hunches, the moments something feels off before you can explain why. There are no accidents, just inner intelligence at work.
• Your Body Is Your First AntennaBalanced meals, movement, good sleep, and stepping away from screens are not just wellness clichés. They are the foundation of intuitive clarity. Your body is a sophisticated receiver of information — but it can only communicate clearly when you're taking care of it. Too much sugar, alcohol, or exhaustion creates static on the line.
• Get GroundedYou'll know you're ungrounded when you're exaggerating problems, going in circles, losing things, and accomplishing very little despite feeling constantly busy. Sound familiar? The fastest fix: get physical. A 20-minute walk, a yoga class, even dancing in your kitchen. Getting back into your body breaks the mental loop and, as a bonus, often jump-starts creativity when you're stuck.
• Breathe — On PurposeMost of us breathe on autopilot, shallowly and quickly. To access your intuition, you need a relatively calm nervous system. Try this: three minutes of slow, deliberate, deep breathing before tackling anything difficult. It sounds simple because it is. Simple doesn't mean ineffective.
• Learn to Be QuietYour ego is loud. Your intuition is quiet. If you want to hear it, you need to create space where the noise settles. Meditation doesn't have to be complicated — start with 3 minutes in a comfortable chair, breathing intentionally, simply observing your thoughts without following them. Do this daily for a week and notice what shifts.
• Observe Without AbsorbingOne of the most powerful skills you can develop: staying present and grounded no matter what's happening around you. You can care deeply about people and situations without being pulled into every emotional storm. Neutrality is a discipline that can be learnt.
• Words Shape Your RealityPay close attention to how you speak — about yourself, about others, about what's possible for you. Words carry energy. The woman who says "I could never do that" and the woman who says "I haven't figured that out yet" are living in different universes. Choose your language deliberately.
• Protect Your EnergyNot all environments and people will support your growth. Learning to identify what drains you — and creating boundaries around it — is not selfish. It's essential. Name the negativity when you feel it. Address misunderstandings early. Consciously cultivate environments that feel good.
• Manage What You ConsumeWhat you watch, listen to, and read shapes your inner landscape. This isn't about avoiding reality — it's about being intentional. A steady diet of violent, fearful, or cynical content keeps your nervous system in a low-level state of threat. Seek out what inspires you, even in small daily doses.
• Go With the Flow — Not Against ItFlexibility is a creative superpower. When you're rigid about how things must happen, you miss the unexpected paths that often lead somewhere better. Trust the detours. Some of the best opportunities in my life arrived through what initially looked like a setback.
• Clear the Clutter — Inside and OutPhysical clutter and mental clutter work against each other. Clear away what no longer serves you — the commitments, the objects, the stories — and notice how much energy returns. Space is not emptiness. Space is possibility.
• Let Go of the Old StoryThe past is the single greatest obstacle to creative reinvention. Not because it wasn't real or important — but because dwelling there means you're missing what's available to you right now. Your next chapter cannot be written if you keep re-reading the last one.
• JournalWrite things down. Your intuition speaks in whispers, and those whispers disappear quickly. Journaling creates a record of your inner life — patterns emerge, insights solidify, and over time you'll build undeniable evidence that your instincts were right far more often than you thought.
• Connect — Whatever That Means to YouCall it prayer, call it meditation, call it a conversation with your higher self or the Universe. The name matters far less than the practice. Creating a regular channel of communication with something larger than your daily concerns keeps you anchored in what actually matters.
• Seek People Who Are on the Same PathYou cannot fully awaken your intuition in isolation. Find your people — women who are also doing the inner work, asking the big questions, willing to be honest about their struggles and their growth.
• Act "As If" Until You DoWalk like the woman you're becoming. Speak like her. Make choices like her. You don't need to have it all figured out before you begin. Embodying your future self is how she arrives.
• Ask for Help — and Trust That It ComesWhether you believe in guides, the universe, God, or simply the accumulated wisdom of your own experience — ask. Be open to receiving answers in unexpected forms. Help has a way of arriving precisely when we stop insisting it look a certain way.
• Stay Curious. Keep Learning.The moment you decide you know enough is the moment growth stops. Approach your life with the curiosity of a beginner. There is always more to discover, including about yourself.
• Choose Optimism as a PracticeNot toxic positivity. Not pretending everything is fine when it isn't. But a genuine, practised orientation toward what is possible, what is good, and what is growing. Optimism is a decision.
• Love the Adventure. Feed Your Soul Daily.Even on the most ordinary days, find one thing that genuinely fills you up. A piece of music, a walk, a conversation, a moment of creative expression. Tiny daily deposits into your soul account compound over time into a life that actually feels like yours.
• Every Problem Contains a GiftThis one takes practice. But when you begin approaching every inconvenience and disappointment as an invitation — "What is this here to teach me?" — your entire relationship with difficulty shifts. You stop being a victim of your circumstances and start being a student of your own life.
• Let Your Higher Self LeadWhen you're in fear, in ego, in the grip of old patterns — try this simple redirect: Higher Self, take over. Repeat it until you feel the shift. It works not because it's magic, but because it interrupts the automatic pattern and invites a different part of you to respond.
• Look Past AppearancesPeople are more than what they present. Situations are more complex than they first appear. Suspend judgement long enough to actually observe — and you'll be surprised how much more accurate your intuition becomes when it's not filtered through assumption.
• Find the Sacred in the OrdinaryWhen you begin seeing the intelligence and beauty woven through everyday life — a kind stranger, a perfectly timed phone call, a solution that arrives in the shower — everything becomes a little more alive. This is not delusion. This is awareness.
• Laugh — This Is Just a Ride.Situations can be serious without you being deadly serious about them. Humour is not a distraction from growth — it's a sign that you've gained enough perspective to stop white-knuckling your way through life. The women in my programs who make the biggest breakthroughs are almost always the ones who can laugh at themselves.
• Create — Every Single DayDoodle. Dance. Cook something new. Write a sentence. Rearrange the furniture. Creativity is not a talent reserved for artists — it is a fundamental human capacity that atrophies without use and flourishes with practice. Use it or lose it.
• Love Yourself — it's a Non-NegotiableThis is not optional. Everything else on this list becomes infinitely harder without a basic foundation of self-respect and self-compassion. You cannot pour from an empty cup, and you cannot create a life you love while simultaneously believing you don't deserve one.
• Share GenerouslyGive your ideas, your encouragement, your presence. Share what you know. The creative economy — unlike the financial one — does not diminish when you give. It grows. The more you share, the more arrives to share.
• Slow DownIn a culture obsessed with productivity and speed, slowing down is a radical act. It is also, as Sonia Choquette writes, "an act of faith, wisdom and surrender." Your best ideas, your clearest intuitions, your most creative moments — they almost never arrive when you're rushing.
• Cultivate Your Inner WorldBy turning attention inward and taking radical responsibility for your own emotional and mental state, you shift from being a reactor to circumstances to being the architect of your own experience. This is a profound act of sovereignty, making you a stable foundation of power in a chaotic outer world.